Bridal and Baby Shower Combined Ideas

Bridal and baby shower combined

Hi all. I have been searching for themes and I need help.
I am the matron of honor for my best friend getting married in June. She also happens to be pregnant and due in early July. Like a week and a half after her wedding. With schedules as hectic as they are, her and I agreed to combine her bridal shower with her baby shower. Luckily her baby is a girl, so I was thinking pink for a theme but I am not sure. How does one combine these 2 parties? What type of theme do you go with? Do you even do a theme?

Thanks

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Super July 2018
Mags · on April 3, 2018 at 6:08 PM
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I personally think it needs to be one or the other. Having both seems gift grabby as people will assune that they need to bring two gifts. Sorry, but I don't have any suggestions as I wouldn't do this or attend one of these.
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Master May 2018
I think it's better to combine them. I'd rather bring a bridal shower and baby shower gift to one event than have to go to shores back to back. You could do a pink and white garden/flower theme. I would look on Pinterest
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Michelle · on April 3, 2018 at 6:24 PM
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That is cute. I would try a summer theme with lots of yellow.

I have also seen people do a balloon theme with the words "ready to pop" written on a balloon or the wall for a baby shower. You could do "he (or she) popped the question, and now she's ready to pop".
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Super July 2018
Mags · on April 3, 2018 at 6:25 PM
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Not to be a pain, but I actually think that these events shouldn't happen even within the same calendar year. I would prefer the baby shower as home stuff can wait. People will attend, but you better believe that they will find it gift grabby.
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Michelle · on April 3, 2018 at 6:26 PM
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I agree. People are busy and don't necessarily have two days to spare for events but that doesn't mean they don't want to be involved in both events.
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Master May 2018
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It isn't gift grabby if you would have had two separate showers and two separate gifts. I see it as more considerate for the guests.
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Master June 2016
Sarah · on April 3, 2018 at 6:29 PM
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So if someone has a bridal shower in January, gets married in February and gets pregnant right away, they should forego a baby shower?
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Just Said Yes June 2018
Misty · on April 3, 2018 at 6:30 PM
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We were trying to be considerate to people's schedule with it being the beginning of summer and vacation times. Everyone invited would have wanted to be at both parties so combining them into one was logical. She also has asked for no gifts for the bridal side of things as they have their home established since this is baby #5.
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Master June 2016
Sarah · on April 3, 2018 at 6:31 PM
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OP I wouldn't bother with a theme. I think you can incorporate colors (pink and maybe some coordinating wedding colors of hers) without doing a theme.
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Master June 2016
Sarah · on April 3, 2018 at 6:32 PM
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If this is baby #5, she doesn't need a baby shower. I rescind my comments about this being acceptable.
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Just Said Yes June 2018
Misty · on April 3, 2018 at 6:34 PM
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I would understand that but they didn't think they were having another baby so they had gotten rid of ALL baby items from the last child. So she is starting over besides the crib.
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Master August 2017
A theme isn't necessary. You cans have a cake that decorated one half for the baby shower and one half for the bridal shower.
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Master August 2017
Invitee can say "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in s little carriage."
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VIP June 2019
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Wait, is she even having a wedding registry?

This sounds like just a baby shower since she doesn't even want gifts for the wedding. I've also never heard of someone having a baby shower with baby #5...
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VIP September 2015
Why is she even having a baby shower when it is #5?
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VIP July 2018
If this is her 5th kid, she shouldn't be having a baby shower, since she probably had one or more before. I have always heard that you don't get showered for every kid. But anyway, if she doesn't want wedding type gifts, then there's no reason to even call it a bridal shower. If you combine them, people will feel obligated to bring both kinds of gifts no matter what you say - I know I would.
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Shay · on April 3, 2018 at 7:46 PM
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You could do a bridal shower, then after the baby girl is born.. Do a meet and greet celebration for the baby.
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VIP September 2018
I wouldn't combine them, it seems gift grabby to have guests bring two gifts. I'd skip the baby shower (it is never appropriate to have a shower for subsequent babies anyway). If she isn't registered then she can't really have a bridal shower either. I'd talk to her and see if she would register for household items and do a bridal shower or consider throwing a luncheon instead. Another thing to consider if you do proceed with hosting the double shower is that anyone invited must be attending the wedding too.

I'd skip a theme and just decorate in soft pinks and pastel colors. A theme isn't really necessary.
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VIP May 2018
Red Queen · on April 3, 2018 at 8:18 PM
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If it's not her first child, she shouldn't be having a baby shower, period. Definitely gift grabby.

And if she doesn't want household stuff, she shouldn't have a bridal shower either. That's what they're for. It's OK to throw a party that doesn't ask for gifts, like a bridal luncheon.
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Super July 2018
Mags · on April 3, 2018 at 10:31 PM
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Well technically, if you got married in January the shower probably happened in the prior year, perhaps, Nov/Dec. I myself wouldn't want two events that are gift centered within the same year. Having a celebration is totally ok, as OP clarified they are actually not expecting gifts for the "bridal shower" part then I think is fine. But I can't imagine opening an invitation where the person has registered for both, home and baby items. Just doesn't seem right .... to me.
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